feat(query): introduce BackpressureSpiller

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Summary

1. Introduced BackpressureSpiller to limit memory usage during spill, use enable_backpressure_spiller to control, off by default
2. Introduced new spill format to support single-file persistent writes
3. Rewrote window spill using BackpressureSpiller

Tests

• Unit Test
• Logic Test
• Benchmark Test
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Type of change

• Bug Fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New Feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking Change (fix or feature that could cause existing functionality not to work as expected)
• Documentation Update
• Refactoring
• Performance Improvement
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